We went to South Padre Island with Maribel, Carlos, and Nick for Memorial Day. The beach wasn’t as crowded as I thought that it would be. When we got there, we got down, unloaded, and… It started to rain. We had to get back into the car, which made the kids furious, and then went to find something to eat. We had originally planned on doing a BBQ but obviously couldn’t do that with the rain.
We ended up not getting anything to eat and waited out the rain instead. We had almost gone home, but luckily we didn’t as the rain only lasted about an hour. Back on the beach once more, the kids immediately wanted to get in the water and the guys wanted to get the grill on immediately as none of us had eaten since breakfast. Note loved the water this time, which has been a first during all our time at the beach or at pools. It was great to see Note enjoying the water so much, even though it was a little stressful because the waves were so strong and Note is so light that they were literally sweeping her away.
The food was done in an amazingly short amount of time. We quickly gobbled it up before taking the kids back to the water once more. Note did not want to get out! Eventually we did have to get out however as it was getting late and Maribel needed to be home early because she worked the next day.
We got ice cream on our way home. It was so delicious! I haven’t had Dairy Queen in quie some time
Here are a few more pictures from our trip. I love the first two. The first one because I look pretty good pregnant and in a swimsuit. The second because I look so happy and the wave is going right up to my belly. I love the ones of Frank and Note as well because I love seeing Note and Frank make memories together since Frank works so much and he can’t usually make it to things like this.
I really love looking back at old pictures of Note. This morning I was looking back at a bunch of pictures of them where they were sleeping together. Frank enjoys Note more now that she can do more things, but I know he loved that younger baby stage because he got to sleep with Note a lot more. Note dropped the afternoon nap a little while back, and anyway the nap always happened after Frank left to work.
Here is a collage of some pictures where they were sleeping together. The one in the top row in the middle was on Note’s first day home. Can’t believe that was over two years ago! And soon we will have a new little one. The time is going to fly by even faster with the second.
I feel like Frank and Note will always have this special bond. Note loves being in the kitchen with Frank. Note didn’t like Frank too much in the beginning and she’s still kind of iffy about him now occasionally, but she always wants to call him and when they are in the kitchen together is when their dynamic really comes alive.
Frank has Note help him with all sorts of kitchen duties, even cutting little vegetables with a real knife and cracking eggs. Note is great about being responsible in the kitchen, surpringly more responsible than I would expect from a two year old.
While I hope Note finds a love in cooking, I do hope that they do not make it a career only because I see how hard the chef life is for Frank. There’s shit for pay and hardly any time to be with family. The hours a long, the work hard, but for Frank it’s all worth it because he loves it so much. If Note finds that same love and passion, I’ll wish them only the best if they make it a career.
Anyway, I’ll end this post here. I’m still typing on my phone and it’s rather annoying due to the crack in the screen and the lag on the keyboard.
Ah! I kind of fell into old habits and stepped away from this blog for a bit. I had another appointment two weeks after I got my official due date just to make sure everything was okay. I went alone to this appointment because Frank was tired. He stayed with Note and I enjoyed my time to myself. I was able to hear the heartbeat, which was 120 bpm. Note’s heartbeat was always 160 and above. Treble measured an entire eight days ahead of where I am based on my due date. Note always measured right on time, so this is an interesting twist, and I wonder what it will mean as far as delivery goes.
By the time I have my next appointment with the OB, I’ll be 11 weeks 3 days, but Treble will be measuring 12 weeks 4 days if the measurements this time weren’t just a fluke. That’s such an exciting time because the baby will definitely look like a baby, and we should be able to see all the limbs flailing around. That was one of my favorite things about my appointments when I was pregnant with Note. If it wasn’t for that, I would probably cut out the OB care.
We also had a visit with the midwife. That helped immensely in helping ease my worries. They said I could deliver there despite my herpes. I was worried that would disqualify me from being low risk and I would be forced to deliver in a hospital. Of course, I still will need a c-section if I am having an outbreak at the time of delivery. I really hope that doesn’t happen. Honestly, I think I will go so fast this time I won’t even have time to go in and get a c-section. I have to be hyper-vigilant for signs of labor when the time comes. Hopefully I can recognize it better now that I’ve been through it once.
The midwife visit was pretty standard. A lot of history and “how are you feeling?” I’ve forgotten how long those visits take.
In other news, Note has officially stopped breastfeeding. Note would ask me occasionally if they could have milk. We tried breastfeeding again and they latched on. It hurt me immensely and they gave me this look while latched, a smile on their lips, but I think they knew it would be the last time that we would be doing that. The next day, the led me to the fridge and asked me for “milk”, then took out the gallon of cow’s milk from the fridge. So, that’s it. At 23 months, our breastfeeding journey has come to its natural conclusion. Its a very bittersweet thing.
So, that’s pretty much everything that’s been going on around here. Nothing to report but me getting more pregnant and Note getting bigger. They’ll be two in about a month. I’m not 100% sure what we’re going to do as far as a party. I’m thinking a very small, subdued get-together at the park. Nothing big, and Frank will make sausage and burgers on the grill. Quick and easy. Not sure if we will do a theme or anything yet. I need to talk to Frank about it a bit more.
We went to our first prenatal appointment today! I thought I was 9 weeks 6 days, but when they did the ultrasound, the baby only measured 5 weeks 6 days. I have been using September 15th as my due date based on my period, but I was giving my new, official due date of October 15th. That means that I caught this pregnancy super early! We did get to see the heartbeat, but it was too early to hear it. We should be able to hear it at our next appointment on 1 March. Now that I am getting further along, I’m getting some of the nausea like I had for Note. I suppose with Note it came so much quicker because I was carrying twins in the beginning. Definitely only one baby this time around, unless I lost the twin very early like I did last pregnancy, but I really don’t feel I was ever carrying more than one this pregnancy. Now that I’ve seen our newest addition, I feel a lot of that dread has eased from my heart and I’m properly excited about this pregnancy once more.
I’m kind of sad to lose about a month off the time I had thought I had completed for this pregnancy. That means it will be one extra month before I get to hold this little one in my arms. I know this pregnancy will pass by much faster than Note’s, however, now that I have a little toddler to chase after. I’m also excited by the fact that Ramzi Method says this baby should be a boy. Gender doesn’t matter much to us and we are still going Team Green, but it is something fun to guess. We will know in eight months!
Overall, my symptoms have been getting stronger and stronger, particularly the morning sickness. I found that milk really upsets my stomach more than other foods, so I’m trying to avoid it and get my calcium from other sources. Maybe I will try some kind of almond milk or something. I’m sure Note would like to try that too. Regular milk upsets their stomach.
I had some tenderness in my breast, but that has disappeared. Perhaps in the beginning it had to do with quitting breastfeeding. The weaning went pretty well. Note still asks me for milk sometimes, but I usually just distract them with something else or say “not right now” and they forget about it. I miss breastfeeding them though, and I am considering starting it back up once they get over their yeast infection, as they do have it in their mouth as well, and the last thing I need is for yeast to cultivate on my nipples.
Overall, I’m really enjoying pregnancy! I hope that the morning sickness goes away. I can’t handle it if I have morning sickness as severe and for as long as I did with Note. It will be way too hard to keep up and keep functioning!
So I have that little WebMD Pregnancy app and it has like a journal function and gives prompts for every week. This week’s prompt is “What are you excited about?” I’ve decided to answer those here since this is more of my pregnancy journal and much easier to give my future child access to if they should ever wish to see the ramblings of their pregnant parent.
So, what am I excited about? I’m excited to have a newborn in my arms again. I’m excited that Note is going to have a sibling. I think that Note will love growing up along side someone and being an older sibling. I’m also excited that Treble has someone as wonderful as Note to look up to. Note is so patient and kind, even if they can have a temper some times.
I’m excited to have two children earth side, and navigating the challenges that come with having more than one child to raise. Generally, I’m excited about this whole pregnancy. It’s much different than how I felt with Note, but I do think that I had a severe case of pre-natal depression when it came to Note. The situation we were in while I was pregnant with Note didn’t help either.
I’m so happy to finally feel excited and in love with a pregnancy. We will not be finding out the gender again, but I do know some “tricks” for predicting gender, and I hope that doesn’t mess me up with gender disappointment. I believe that happened when I was pregnant with Note as well, even if I didn’t get a confirmation until Note was born.
Generally, I feel great except for some general fatigue/exhaustion. That could have to do with working again though and not being used to that. I won’t be working for much longer though, so then I’ll be able to rest up and chase Note around again. Can’t wait to have them back home!
And here it is, for the first time in print ANYWHERE, a year and a half later, Note’s birth story. Eventually I’ll repeat this to Note every year on their birthday. It’s a tradition I picked up from my mother in law (she even made up a fake birth story to tell me on my birthday) that I absolutely love.
I went to bed on April 20th, 2014 filled with relief that I had reached full term and finally letting go some of the anxiety about having a baby before my due date (which isn’t actually bad, but I’m quite neurotic after all). I remember my last thought before I drifted off to sleep was “You can come any time you want now, baby.”
I woke up the next morning feeling strange. It is a feeling I can’t quite describe and I’ve never felt before, but I just felt inexplicably different. I knew, without knowing how I knew, that I would be holding a baby in my arms instead of my belly by the end of the day. I got up, went to the bathroom, and lost my mucus plug. That must have been some time around nine am. I was getting belly aches, which I suppose were contractions, but they didn’t actually hurt. They were a strange sensation that made me uncomfortable and not want to be sitting, but they weren’t actually painful. Frank still had days off at the time (how I long for those once more now!) so we had a pre-natal appointment scheduled for two pm. We called the midwife and told her what was going on. She asked how far apart my contractions were, and when I said three minutes, she didn’t believe me and told me I must be counting wrong (bitch please, I’m an engineer) and said to just wait for my appointment.
Frank loaded everything up into the car that I had listed for our bags, which we were going to find out was a really unnecessary amount of stuff. It felt like an eternity to have to wait for our appointment, but we somehow managed. Frank tried to force me to eat, but I really didn’t want to put anything in my mouth at the time. We left around noon to go to Wesleco and get to the birth center. I threw up along the way, and I was so glad I had decided to keep trash bags and towels in the truck in fear of this.
Our appointment went well. Wight, blood pressure, listening to Note’s heart, etc. They did a cervical check and I had just barely entered active labor at four centimeters dilated. By this time, the contractions had started to pick up (and they finally believed that they were coming three to four minutes apart) and actually started to cause pain. Heather, the midwife and the only one on duty, told me it would be a while before I had a baby, so I could go home and wait or stay there and wait. Luckily, I’m extremely stubborn and I decided not to leave. This decision was probably the best one I made throughout the whole ordeal. We were ushered into a random birth house and told to wait there and take a nap and rest up. I somehow managed to sleep a bit between contractions, but most of the time I was crying and screaming that I wouldn’t be able to do this and I wanted an epidural. I went into the shower every time there was hot water and took a nap in the tub for a while too. We called and asked for Heather a few times, asking her to bring some Tylenol for pain relief, but she never showed up. We just kept being told she was really busy.
At some point a little after 5:30 I really felt like I had to poop. I went to the toilet and started trying to have a bowel movement, but couldn’t force it out. I went to cry (literally cry) to Frank about how I just really wanted to poop and he told me to try again, so I went back to the bathroom. I couldn’t force anything out yet again, and something just clicked in me to reach into my vagina and check for the baby. I almost fainted when I could feel the bag of waters around Note’s head. I yelled for Frank and told him to call Heather now because I was having that baby if she was there to catch it or not.
Heather (finally) arrived about ten minutes later. Her nurse started getting the tub ready for a water birth. At first, before later, I had been quite against a water birth just for fear, but once I was in labor I found that water was the only thing that soothed my misery. She was leading me to the tub when she decided to check my cervix instead, so we went back to the bed. I was fully dilated and effaced and she could easily feel Note’s head.
I could barely walk to the tub and climb in, but somehow I made it, whining all the while about how I wanted some pain relief and asking if I had other options than having a baby, as well as, very awkwardly, asking “why is this happening?” Luckily, everyone was smart enough to leave that question alone. The water barely covered anything at all, and my greatest fear was realized: I pooped in the water. I didn’t care at the time, and I don’t really care now. But before labor I was really worried about it.
It took two pushes, one for the head and one for the body, and then Note was born at 5:55 pm.My water never broke, and Note was born en caul, a quite rare and special experience. Note’s umbilical cord was also wrapped around their neck twice, which was scary, and I tried to unwrap it myself but they were slick with birth stuff. Heather was great at this point, freeing Note without pushing my fumbling hands away. While waiting to deliver the placenta, I took Note in my arms and tried to latch them for the first time. They did it and nursed like a champ. It was such a magical moment, and all the fears and reservations I had about being a mother simply melted away in that moment. That was when I knew that Note would be my child forever.
At some point, I wanted relief from the awkward position we were sitting in, so we migrated everything to the bed. The placenta still wasn’t ready to be delivered, but the cord had stopped pulsating so we were ready to cut it. We had discussed with Heather before that Frank would be cutting the umbilical cord with his chef knife, and he did. He still uses that knife as his primary knife to this day. He does want to retire it until he begins working somewhere else, but he hasn’t found a knife he likes enough to replace it with yet.
Once the umbilical cord was cut, Note was taken to be weighed and measured (7 lbs 7 oz and 19 3/4 in long) with Frank watching while I delivered the placenta. That wasn’t a painful experience at all, except for Heather’s hand pressing on my mid-section. After it was delivered, she showed it to me and explained how healthy it looked and what made it so. That was a really interesting lesson as I love learning all sorts of new things, and I had never read any of that in the pregnancy and childbirth books.
Note footprints and handprints were taken for the baby book, and after that we were left to be a family. Maribel arrived late, so she completely missed the birth, but it was nice to have her there for support once Note was born. She took a couple of pictures and helped us out with packing things up once more. We barely got any of the thousand items I thought we would need down, and didn’t use almost any of them at all. Really, all that was needed was some clothes for me, a diaper, and an outfit for Note. And don’t forget the always-important carseat.
We left as soon as we were discharged. We thought about staying the night because Frank was on house arrest at the time and this was our chance to be out and also be alone as a family. We ultimately decided against it and just went straight home. Note didn’t mind the carseat or car ride, and I sat in the back with them.
Once we got home, Frank’s mom was waiting for us. She didn’t impose, just wanted to see the baby, know how it went, etc. She has become like a surrogate mother to me, so I was more than happy to have her there. I couldn’t imagine having to stay in the hospital for three days with my newborn. The next day, Frank and I were out and about showing Note off and running errands. I can’t imagine being bed-ridden due to a c-section either. Overall, a vaginal delivery was amazing. I loved giving birth and would do it a hundred thousand times if my body would let me. More than anything, I loved becoming a mother, and I absolutely cannot wait to do it again.
I’m 39 weeks and 4 days (which means only THREE more days until my due date!) and I still have no real signs of labor! I am getting pretty impatient to meet my little Note. My midwife says it is common for first time mothers to deliver at around 41 weeks. I am just hoping I don’t make it to 42 weeks, because then I cannot deliver at my birth center anymore and must go to a hospital for delivery.
There have been no real changes in my body. Everything seems to be gearing up towards the big day, but there is no sign when that day will come. I am hoping I am one of the lucky ones who will deliver on my due date. That date holds a lot of significance to me since it is Hailey’s birthday. It would be nice for her and Note to share a birthday.
I’ve had a very hard time staying awake today. I’m up for a couple of hours, and then I’m right back to sleep. I don’t know why I can’t keep my eyes open or my energy up. I guess these are normal problems during pregnancy. I never had the fatigue in the first trimester, so maybe this is the time that I’m having it. I almost got away with it!
I’m currently 38 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I’m so close to the end, but so far! I’ve had two cervical checks so far. The first one was at 37 weeks. I was 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced. The second one was last Monday at 38 weeks. I was 1.5 cm dilated and “very soft”, so I made a little bit of progress but not much. I have been losing bits and pieces of my mucus plug for the last week and a half or so. There was one little chunk that did have a bit of blood in it. I have contractions on and off, but very few of them hurt, so I’m thinking they’re just a lot of Braxton Hicks. Frank has court on Monday the 14th, so I really hope this baby can be delivered before then.
Everything is going well with my pregnancy, so this has just become a bit of a waiting game now. I’ve been bouncing on a birth ball to help Note drop, but this little baby is stubborn and absolutely does not want to drop. I’m hoping it’s not because of my scoliosis. I walk every morning with Frank. It’s not a crazy amount of walking, but he likes to take me out and we go shopping and have been trying to get some things ready before he has court. There are also a few things we need for the baby that we have to get. I will be ordering our playpen tomorrow. Even if Note comes before then, we will just have them sleep in the bouncer or sleep and play until the play pen gets here. Maybe if it takes a while, Frank will get me the bassinet I really want! I doubt it, but I can dream. I know a bassinet is basically useless because they use it for such a short period of time, but I am just so in love with the one that I saw at Burlington.
Even though I don’t have much longer until my due date, I think I will likely be overdue. My midwife even said it was very likely, although I have been progressing little by little and my body seems to be getting ready. Most first time moms go overdue, so it’s not a big deal. The thing that worries me most is that Note hasn’t dropped. All the books and apps say it should have happened by now, but I know of a lot of people on the birth boards who say their first born never dropped but they still went into labor and had no problems, so who knows? Either way, I am just excited to get this show on the road! I want Note to be here soon.
Here’s a list of what we decided to pack in our bags and take along for the birth. Since we are going to be delivering at the birth center, we’ll usually be released about six hours after delivery. If I deliver at night, they will let me stay overnight. For that reason, I’m just packing basic overnight necessities. I do have two bags on stand-by (one for me and one for Frank) in case we end up transferring to the hospital or staying longer. They’re mostly filled with clothes. That way, someone can just drop by the house and pick them up instead of having to rummage through our clothes and things to bring us what we need.
Carry Out: These are things daddy’s going to have to get and put in the vehicle if they’re not already in there.
Towel and Trashbag – apparently a lot of people throw up during the car ride. I want to protect my truck!
Car Seat – our base is already installed, but we don’t keep the carseat in the car.
Nursing Pillow – I’m taking a mombo.
Cooler with Drinks and Meals – Since I still have morning sickness, Frank has a pre-approved list of foods that he can pack and eat that won’t make me throw up.
Mommy’s Bag: These are the things that are specifically packed in my bag.
Sports Bra – for walking around during labor in case I feel too hot for other clothes.
Socks – some fuzzy ones in case my feet get cold!
Going Home Outfit – black pants, because there can be a lot of bleeding after delivery.
Toiletries – toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, brush, gel
Maxi Pads – for the bleeding. I’m making “soothing” ones following these instructions.
Hair Band – I’ll want my hair out of my face!
Contacts – I have really bad eyesight. If my glasses start to fog up, I will want to have an option that will still allow me to see.
Old Underwear – because I hear all the underwear in the beginning will probably get stained.
Birth Plan – there is one in my patient chart, but it always helps to have extra copies!
Baby’s Bag: We are using cloth diapers, so decided to take those with us so we can start right away with cloth. I don’t think the birth center provides as much as the hospital, so maybe I am overpacking if it actually does provide items for baby.
2 Newborn Outfits – I think we only need one, but in case we stay overnight or have an accident in one. Hopefully Note can come home in the outfit that we picked for them to come home in! We are expecting an average-sized baby, so newborn size will be perfect.
2 Swaddle Blankets
1 Swaddle Wrap – in case we can’t get the swaddling down quickly enough.
3 Newborn Diapers – we are using gDiapers. We will probably only experience one diaper while at the birth center, but I am taking more just in case.
3 Small Diapers – just in case these fit better than the newborn diapers. They are also gDiapers.
3 Extra Snap Liners – these are for the gDiapers specifically to make changes easier. They are only for the small diapers.
Disposable Inserts – we are using these until the meconium stage passes.
Baby Book – to record the birth details and get the tiny foot prints like they do on the birth certificate.
Comb/Brush – for that little hair.
Body Wash – we are still undecided if we will wait on the first bath and leave the vernix and all that stuff on until we take their first bath when the umbilical cord comes off.
Nail Clippers – newborn nails are usually a little long and they can scratch their face.
Wipes – we are taking sample packs since I doubt we need much.
Wet Bag – These are to put dirty cloth diapers in. We wouldn’t need it if we were using disposables.
Daddy’s Bag: These are the things we packed in Frank’s bag. He is an extreme minimalist, so his list is extremely short.
Change of Clothes
Pajamas – he only wants these because he gets extremely cold at night.
Snacks – he gets to carry any snacks we want that don’t go in the cooler in his bag.
Massage Oil – This is for me, but I’m putting it in his bag.
Props – he has a special scene he wants to set up for a right after birth picture.
Kindle + Charger – he can be pretty restless when he is just sitting down, so he needs something to distract himself.
Phone Chargers – These are really important! We have one back up in the car already in case we forget. This is probably an item we might forget to pack since we use them every day.
So, that’s all we are going to pack. I will make a post after the birth to keep track of whatever we did use. I do hope I didn’t over or under pack. But I would honestly rather overpack. Better to have everything I need when I need it.